Lesson 40) Horsing Around

Here's where my train of thought went:
"This lesson is about leading people on... like a horse off the lead... horsing around... haha that's what got to the leading on... Hey, don't horses ride in circles during training?"

But no, this lesson is not about horses. It's about my lovely roommate, Sara.
Sara became quick friends with Mason's roommate, who we'll call Mitch (why do so many of my male friends have 'M' names?). Mitch was actually the boy from THE CODE lesson, in case you're curious.
From the first time they hung out, there was a level of teasing flirtation. Not the kind that leads to anything too heavy, just light fun stuff. This + liquid courage resulted in the place they are now, which is something along the lines of "friends with benefits." Sara's very happy with their current system. She's been very upfront about how she feels and what she wants. This has been the most vital communication! Because of this, it's not awkward throughout the week. They hang out and it's normal, minus a few rude fun comments from the peanut gallery. There are no expectations... or there hadn't been.

What the rest of us are worried about is: what happens after?
There are some expectations developing, involving selections for "date parties" with Greek life and such events. Mitch is alright with this, because it's obvious to all of us that he'd like a little development. However, there's no guarantee that such an action will take place, or that it won't.

I wish them the best, and hope that all works out for them, whatever flavor of relationship that may end up being. The aftermath can be helped by us, the peanut gallery. We have to be the supportive crew. It's our job to give them our real opinions. In situations like these, people benefit from every angle that can be seen. Daphne, Mason, Carrie, and I are doing just that. We've discussed the events with each other, and expressed our views to the two of them as well. (Ew, that sounds so bussiness like. I promise we don't have committee meetings about all this... they're more like gossip sessions!) But, in the end it's their choice. You have to keep the balance of helping them see everything, but also remembering it's their life- not yours.
I believe in this specific instance, all will be well. I know Sara is a logical person, and I'm pretty sure Mitch is too, so there are no real worries. I'm using this time to remind you, whether you're the Sara, the Mitch, or the peanut gallery, you have a duty to be upfront about your feelings, while remembering it can effect everyone around you as well.

Here's to the friends, and here's to the benefits!
Curl Girl, out!